MikeT – I can definitely relate to how you’re feeling right now. In the first 3 months my son was born, it felt as if someone had lent me some exquisitely valuable piece of stereo equipment that need constant TLC. It was all Duty, Duty, Duty on a 24 x 7 schedule that never let up. I got a sense of accomplishment and pride from taking care of him, but it wasn’t a really joyful feeling.

As he got older and developed his own personality it became a blast. You witness the ecstasy of pleasures discovered for the first time; snow, ice cream, petting soft animals etc. You see the moments of accomplishment when he figures something out. You see him fascinated by your interests and hobbies.

I think it’s important to share your passions with your children. Play them music you like, and show them the things you love. That way, the activity you’re doing is enjoyable to you independently from time spent with your kid. It’s a good twofer; a way to meet your needs without shirking your duties. They’ll be plenty independent; they’ll let you know when your pushing too hard. It’s the difference between opening a door, and dragging someone through the threshold.